You’ve probably heard about the different types of orgasms before—nipple, anal, G-spot and clitoral orgasms, to name a few. We hope you’re exploring those, but we also want you to know about the blended orgasm.
The blended orgasm is widely considered the holy grail of orgasms. It’s like a two-for-one. Vulva-havers can experience both a G-spot and clitoral orgasm at once, and the effect is truly show stopping. In our research, 68% of people with vaginas reported the pairing produces one of the best orgasms they’ve experienced.
What Is A Blended Orgasm?
To have a blended orgasm it’s helpful to understand how they work. In short, it’s two orgasms at the same time, and in this case we’re talking specifically about a combo of the clitoral and G-spot orgasms.
If you still think of your clitoris as a bulb, or a pearl-like structure, you’re selling your body short. The clitoris is actually a complicated pleasure structure with more than 8,000 nerve endings. It’s made up of the glans—the external hooded portion of the clitoris (this is the part most people are familiar with)—and the body, the internal continuation of the glans. There’s also the crura, which are internal and extend from the body to the left and right and wrap around the vaginal opening, kind of like a wishbone.
The clitoral structures have a “root” in the vaginal canal, which form the G-spot. In many ways, the G-spot is simply an extension of, or root of, the clitoris. If you stimulate the G-spot, you’re simply stimulating a deeper part of your clitoris. However, you can orgasm by stimulating them separately, thus the terms clitoral orgasm and G-spot orgasm.
The idea is yeah, orgasms are great alone, but wouldn’t it be better if we put them together? Sometimes, two really is better than one, and by stimulating the G-spot and clitoris at the same time, you can do just that.
How To Have A Blended Orgasm
So how do you have a blended orgasm? It’s easier if you start solo first.Many people with vaginas won’t have experienced a blended orgasm or may feel a little shy about trying something new with a partner first. That’s normal, and it’s healthy to explore new pleasures on your own!
Try experimenting with your own hands to begin. You can watch porn, use your imagination, or even watch a partner masturbate to get aroused, and slowly begin to work your own body. Trying rubbing your chest, vulva, and nipples.
Once you’re feeling a little hot, work your hands to the vulva and caress or stimulate your clitoris. Use your fingers to apply pressure in circles, or side-to-side. Speed it up or slow it down, and experiment with different pressures. This is why it’s so important to practice by yourself—how can you communicate to a partner what you enjoy otherwise?
If your clitoris is feeling good, try inserting a finger and reach for your bellybutton with a gentle “come hither” motion. Here is another place for experimentation; try softer or hard pressures or longer and shorter strokes. The G-spot isn’t necessarily a “nub” or a structure. It’s more of a region, so finding the right spot and method will take practice.
Bring On The Toys
When you’re feeling like a masturbatory champ, it’s time to crank it up a notch. Enter: Osé 2—your new BFF designed specifically to deliver blended orgasms.
Osé 2 features a ton of upgrades, including a more flexible shaft that’s a little narrower in diameter to more easily hit the G-spot. The hands-free toy stimulates both the clitoris and the G-spot at the same time, using biomimicry to simulate the human mouth and fingers—no vibration required.
Osé 2 is also a great way to explore your blended orgasm preferences, and you can control the speed and strengths of the finger-like come hither motion as well as the airflow technology on the clitoral stimulation part. The Osé 2 can also be used with a partner, making penetrative and partnered sex more enjoyable.
Like we said, Osé 2 can be used in partnered sex. The shaft makes a great handle for reaching the clitoris while your partner uses their penis, but toy-free practice is also encouraged.
Some sex positions facilitate blended orgasms, like doggy style. Instead of putting your hands on the bed or floor, lean your body against the wall or headboard and use your free hand to stimulate the clitoris. In doggy style, your partner can also use a hand to stimulate your clitoris or place two fingers around their penis to hit the wishbone-like shape of the clitoris that extends into the labia.
Other great positions include reverse cowgirl, classic missionary, and spooning.
Remember partnered sex doesn’t just include penetration. Good oral, with some suction from the mouth or varied motions and speeds from your partner’s tongue, pairs well with the same fingered, come-hither motion. You could request an orgasm of your own before penetrative sex, or ask your partner to help you achieve orgasm after their own.
What If It Didn’t Happen Yet?
Remember that each person’s body is different. Vulva-havers often struggle with the orgasm gap, which affects heterosexual couples more than LGBTQ couples. In hetero couples, male partners will often orgasm more than female partners, and extra communication and vulnerability is important to overcome the problem.
Because of the orgasm gap, it can be difficult to know or communicate sexual desires and needs to a partner, and admitting you haven’t come yet can be really difficult to do.
In short, it’s not always easy to have a blended orgasm, and if you’re affected by the orgasm gap it can be even more difficult. Don’t beat yourself up if it doesn’t happen right away, or if it only happens during solo play. The blended orgasm is a journey, and the pleasure itself is worth the experimentation. After all, orgasms come with many physical and emotional benefits, like reduced headaches and increased body confidence!
Give yourself the space to learn, try new things and enjoy the ride, pressure-free. It may take some time before you’re able to achieve this orgasm with yourself or a partner, but the sex ed itself is still fun!