How to Use a Vibrator

How to Use a Vibrator

May 10th 2022

New to sex toys, or new to vibrators? No worries, friend, we’ve got the buzz! Sexual wellness and being sexually empowered relies on accurate sex education and learning new things about pleasure and our bodies, so we’re happy you’re here.

If you’ve never used a vibe before, it can be a little confusing. So we’re covering everything you need to know about the basics—how and why to use lube, how to clean a vibrator, when to use a condom with toys, how to stimulate the G-spot, clitoris, and prostate, plus some extra shopping recommendations, too! 

Adding a vibrator to either masturbation and solo play or to couples’ sex will change your sex game for good, so let’s talk about it!

How to stimulate the clitoris, G-Spot and prostate with a vibrator

There are plenty of great pleasure spots, also called erogenous zones, you can stimulate with a vibrator. This could lead to an orgasm, or simply to heightened arousal during foreplay and penetration. Although you can really use one anywhere, vibrators are most commonly used to stimulate the clitoris, the G-spot and the prostate.

How to stimulate the clitoris with a vibrator

The clitoris is the most innervated organ in the human body with more than 8,000 nerve endings bundled into a 10-centimeter anatomical wonder. Yet we only had the first 3D model of it ten years ago! 

Turns out, the clitoris is a powerhouse of pleasure that extends far beyond the “pearl” or “button” shaped structure located at the intersection of the top of the labia. It’s also made of erectile tissue and may become larger and more noticeable with arousal.

To stimulate the clitoris, you’ll want to start slow. Use the vibrator not directly on it, but around the clitoris, rubbing the labia and vulva before applying the vibrator on a lower speed setting to the clitoris. You can gently move the vibrator in small circles or up and down motions, and gradually increase the speed. If you’re doing this for your partner, be sure to check in with them and ask if they’re enjoying the movement and speed!

How to simulate the G-Spot with a vibrator

The G-spot is located inside the vaginal opening on the side where the belly button is. It’s normally a couple of inches inside the vaginal canal, but you or your partner can explore to find the spot. You may notice a small bump or a section of tissue with a different texture, and using a come-hither motion with your fingers to stroke the area should feel pretty good!

You can use a vibrator internally, especially if it’s curved to reach the G-spot, to buzz against that spot. Once again, start slow. Remember that penetration can be vulnerable and sensitive, so begin by inserting the vibrator slowly and just a bit at a time. 

Once you feel comfy with the insertion, position the vibrator to rest against the G-spot. You can leave it in place or move in and out gently to stimulate the area. 

How to stimulate the prostate with a vibrator

The prostate is also an internal erogenous zone for people who have penises. It’s located inside the anus and can be stimulated from the inside or outside. A vibrator can be used against the perineum, which is the space between the testicles and anus. You can press the vibrator gently against the skin, increasing speed and intensity as you like.

You can also insert a vibrating plug in the anus and allow it to internally stimulate the prostate, but don’t use anything that isn’t a plug! Anal plugs have wider ends or bases so they don’t get fully inserted into the anus, and that’s for your safety. While you can’t “lose” a tampon or vibrator in the vagina because of the cervix, you can certainly do so with anal play!

How and why to clean your vibrator

Like any other sex toy, you need to clean your vibrator. This reduces the chance of infection or the spread of STIs and contributes to overall safer sex. Cleaning toys is especially important when sharing them among multiple partners! On that note, when sharing toys among partners you’ll also want to use condoms. Condoms prevent STI spread and make toy play safer regardless of who it’s with or where you’re at. 

Be sure to use a toy-safe cleaner and toy-safe condom. We created an all-natural, refreshing Produce Cleanser that can be used with any Lora DiCarlo toy. It’s a great option for all kinds of pleasure products!

How and why to use lube with a vibrator

No matter which of the above areas you’re stimulating, lube may be the most important part. You can never have enough lube! Lube makes pleasure more comfortable, which is especially important for beginners. You don’t want skin irritation, tissue tearing, or discomfort.

When stimulating an external area, you can put lube directly on the vibrator and on the skin. When stimulating internally, you can apply lube to the vibrator and to the outside of the vaginal opening or the anus; we would never recommend pouring or applying it directly into a hole!

We created Well Balanced CBD Lube, a toy-safe lubricant that works with all Lora DiCarlo products. It replicates the body’s natural wetness and creates gliding and sliding that’ll make any play session that much better. Plus, the addition of broad-spectrum CBD will instantly relax your muscles and increase blood flow for enhanced comfort and arousal.

Our best vibrators for beginners or explorers

Ready to make your first purchase? Here are our top three favorite vibrators for beginners and explorers! And don’t worry—every Lora DiCarlo product is waterproof and rechargeable.

Drift is our take on a classic bullet vibrator. You’ll love the customizable speed settings and how easy it is to hold and use. Plus, Drift is part of our warming line. It heats quickly to just above body temperature for a soothing, relaxing experience. Drift can stimulate the clitoris or the G-spot.

If you don’t own any other sex toys, Drift is for you!

Sway is our double-ended warming toy, and it’s designed for diverse and creative use, so you can keep finding new paths to pleasure. Each part of Sway is designed to fit different anatomies so you can flip it to face forwards or backwards to find just the right spot and apply the right pressure. 

You can use Sway on yourself to spice up solo play or invite a partner to try something new together. Sway could be inserted in the anus during vaginal sex or while giving oral sex. It’s your world, and you can find an infinite number of combos for Sway. 

Remember how we said proper anal plugs should be used to simulate the prostate? Well, look no further, back door newbies! Tilt is also part of our warming line, which can be incredibly helpful for anal beginners. The soothing heat means this new experience isn’t so scary.

The versatile design stimulates the G-spot and clitoris or the prostate and perineum simultaneously, and two independent motors deliver intense rumbly vibrations with seven intensity settings.

If you want to dive into anal play without all the big, scary toys, Tilt is for you!

Get buzzing!

No matter which toy and pleasure zone you choose to play with, this quick beginner’s guide contains the tools and info you need to enjoy your first vibrator. So get buzzing, pleasure seeker, and spice up your sex life for good!