If a friend told you they practiced sex magick (it’s no typo, practioners use the “k” to differentiate between a serious spiritual practice and stage tricks used for entertainment) what would you envision?
A spooky scene comes to mind, possibly reminiscent of “American Gods,” in which ancient sex goddess Bilquis consumes a man whole with her vagina as he orgasms inside her. It can be easy to assume sex magick, or any magickal practice, is about power, dark forces, or spooky ingredients—but the truth is a lot more tame—sorry!
What Is Sex Magick?
Magickal practice in general is about energy and manifestation. Any time you hold a crystal and meditate, focus on a mantra or light a candle in hopes of achieving a goal, you’re going through similar motions a pagan, Wiccan, or other magickal practitioner might.
Many cultures utilize magick (more on that in a minute). The basics of any spell is gathering energy to devote toward a certain purpose, asking the universe or deities or a god to deliver an outcome—whether that’s finding a lover, getting a job, or making new friends. Magick is simply about being mindful, focusing on an intention, and using that energy for an outcome.
That simple definition makes sex magick a lot less scary, right?
How Does Sex Magick Work?
Sex magick is also about intention. Essentially, it's about harnessing the feeling of your sexual experience, solo or partnered, to focus on your desires. Think of it like making a wish when the clock hits 11:11, or as you blow out a birthday candle; but instead of a clock or candle, you’re using orgasm or sexual intimacy as the catalyst for the wish.
In this way, we can use sex magick to benefit our lives, our partners’ lives, and accomplish or work toward so many goals. Looking to score a promotion or a raise? Ready to begin a course of therapy and want to bring positive intention into your sessions? Or, how about manifesting deeper relationships with yourself and others? Sex magick can help you channel your energy and focus it on those desires.
Let’s say, though, you aren’t a big believer in sex magick or aren’t sure it’s for you. That’s cool; the practice itself is a blessing. Sex magick practiioners often use slow, intimate moments to build energy. They may also come close to oragsm, then back off, then build again and again until a final crescendo. Slower sex, explorative sex, intimate moments, and communicating a mutual intention or manifestation with a parter are all great things. They can help us relieve stress, re-invigorate our sex lives, increase body confidence and generally make pleasure a lot more fun.
The Complicated History Of Sex Magick
Today, sex magick is practiced by witches, healers, pagans, Wiccans, and every day folks who find it helpful or fun. But it has been around for millennia.
Sex magick is often conflated with tantric yoga, which we covered in a previous post. At its root, tantra is about mindfulness and encompasses an entire lifestyle, so it’s reductive and problematic to say it’s exclusively about sex. However, sex magick practices have been recorded as far back as the first millennium and does have roots in Central Asia’s tantric practices, according to Sex & the Supernatural, published in 1970.
Other ancient cultures, such as the Greeks, almost certainly used sex magick in devotion to deities like Aphrodite. And remember Bilquis, from American Gods? She’s loosely based on the Queen of Sheba, a Biblical character who married King Solomon.
In more modern times, practitioners like Aleister Crowley abused magick and gave it a bad name. Crowley’s rituals caused the death of at least one cult member who drank cat’s blood. Later, Crowley became addicted to drugs and passed away in Hastings, England, in 1947. Because of notorious figures and general fear and misunderstanding, Christian groups in the U.S. and the U.K., along with some other religious organizations, ridiculed and oppressed practitioners of all sorts. In fact, Vice previously reported in 2016 that the Satanic Panic of the 70s isn’t over.
Still, over time, magick has been reclaimed, largely by the feminist movement (which of course includes women, men, and members of the LGBTQ+ community. You don’t have to be a cis woman to be a witch!) In 2019, The Guardian reported on the uptick in active practitioners, many who were working to influence fascist politics or reclaim their personal power.
Many pagan, Wiccan, and magick-related blogs can be found covering sex magick, and online communities often feature posts from newer practitioners asking questions about safety and methodology. There are also Christian, Buddhist, and other types of witches, although you do not have to practice sex magick to be a witch, regardless of religion or culture. Witches on Instagram are particularly active and even sell ingredients or kits to spice up the bedroom or sex magick ritual. Today, witches from all over the world, spanning many different cultures, use magick of various kinds.
This Is Not A Love Spell
It’s important to note that sex magick is very different than love magick or love spells. Many witches advocate against love magick or spells because of the way magickal forces work. Magick works best on yourself; manifesting your own success or development is much different than manifesting a particular person falls in love with you. That could also violate consent, as it takes away a person’s free will. In general, magick performed on others is simply unpredictable and could backfire.
If you’re ready to learn more about sex magick and reap the intimate, pleasurable benefits, we’ve got great news. We’ll be diving into rituals you can try at home.
Even if you aren’t a believer, we encourage you to get outside your comfort zone and try something new. If the only drastic change in your life is better pleasure or a new adventure, that’s a win in our book. As always, wherever your pleasure takes you, we’re here to support. We hope to journey to new, O-inducing heights together.