Can you count on more than one hand how many types of orgasms you’ve had? Not how many times you’ve orgasmed—but the type. If you’re scratching your head, we’ve got some titillating news for you; there are between four and fourteen different kinds of orgasms for people with vaginas, and how many you attempt is up to you.
National Orgasm Day is July 31, and we’re celebrating all month long with our inaugural Summer O-Games Giveaway, so there’s no better time to brush up on your O-skills. While most people with vaginas are familiar with clitoral and even G-spot orgasms, there is so much more to explore.
What Is An Orgasm?
First things first–what’s an orgasm, anyways? Let’s take a look at the dictionary’s definition.
a climax of sexual excitement, characterized by feelings of pleasure centered in the genitals
Merriam Webster is pretty close, but orgasms are more than just genital sensation. Orgasms are characterized by the rhythmic contraction and relaxation of muscles as a result of stimulation and arousal, and it can happen in several different erogenous zones, not just the genitals.
What Is An Erogenous Zone?
People with vaginas have multiple erogenous zones, or body and contact points that create pleasurable sensations. Here are a few:
An erogenous zone can be anywhere you enjoy being touched, so this list isn’t exhaustive, but it’s a good place to start. Let’s talk a bit about the kind of orgasm you can have in some of these sensual spots.
People with vaginas aren’t going to be surprised by this, but a whopping *93% of women enjoy clitoral stimulation during sex. The
clitoral orgasm is a common, and powerful, sensation. In fact, it is the most preferred type of erotic stimulation by far.
*Female Sexual Pleasure Study, Attitudes and Usage, Lora DiCarlo, June 2019
The clitoris is more than just a little “button” or nub. The majority of the structure is internal and encircles the vaginal opening. It is the most innervated organ in the human body, with more than 8,000 nerve endings bundled into a 10-centimeter-large anatomical wonder.
The head of the clitoris is made of erectile tissue, so it does take some time to get fully aroused, but there are many enticing ways to achieve this. We surveyed over 1,000 women about the specific kind of stimulation they like on their clitoris, and here’s what they said:
- 61% prefer a sucking motion or oral sex
- 58% prefer pulsing or vibrating
- 54% prefer an up-and-down stroking motion on top of the glans
- 50% prefer circle or oval strokes around the glans
It’s the twenty-first century. Scientists have mapped the human genome, traveled to the farthest depths of the Marianas Trench, and created ways to score hookup appointments with the swipe of a thumb. And yet most of us have a mediocre education about female pleasure and orgasms.
One common question many people have is: does the G-spot exist? The name is misleading, because the G-spot is not a “spot” per se, it’s a dynamic network of tissues and nerves that produce pleasurable sensations, and in some people, orgasm. This “spot” is inherently linked to the clitoris, and by stimulating it, you can deliver sensation to the internal structure of the clitoris. G-spot orgasms can feel similar, or different, than clitoral ones.
To access this area, the traditional wisdom remains the same: insert your fingers about 2 inches into your vagina and angle them toward the front of your body and gently explore. The G-spot is unique to each person in location, size, and ability to become aroused, so if you can’t find it right away, it doesn’t mean you don’t have one.
The nipple orgasm is more elusive and less common than other kinds of orgasms, but some people do report the experience. It makes sense, too, considering how many nerve endings lie in and around the nipple.
Nipples respond to many different temperatures and sensations, including:
- Different textures, like water or fabric
- Gentle sucking motions with a partner’s mouth
- Toys, like nipple clamps or electric toys
- Fingers and hands
- Warm melted wax
We now know that nipple sensation is linked to the same part of the brain as genital sensation. Whether experiencing a nipple orgasm or using nipple stimulation to deepen genital orgasms, nipple play can greatly enhance your sexual experience and open new doors of erotic discovery.
The key to anal play, whether or not it results in orgasm, is relaxation. The anus is guarded by two sphincters, or bands of muscle, designed to keep things in or out of the human body. The first, external sphincter is under voluntary control, meaning you can relax it consciously to allow anal play.
Most of the nerve endings in this area are concentrated in the skin around the opening to the anus. This is the perianal region. The anus (aka the butthole) and perineum, which is the area between the anus and the scrotum or vulva, are highly sensitive. It’s packed with nerves that bring you pleasure, but the skin is also delicate and susceptible to irritation and injury. This may be one of the reasons that anal sex is perceived as painful. We’re here to tell you it doesn’t have to be if you treat your body right.
Start by massaging your or your partner’s buttocks. Massage can be a great way to awaken other erogenous zones as well. Use oil or lotion and slowly work your way towards the anus and perineum. Take time to manually and gently stimulate these areas with your fingers. Keep your focus on the external skin; don’t rush right to penetration.
When you are ready to explore penetration, start with a single, very well lubricated finger. This skin is prone to tearing, so using plenty of lube is critical.
Ah, the holy grail of orgasms, and the kind of orgasm that led our founder,
Lora Haddock DiCarlo, to begin creating new toys that focused on increasing your chance of experiencing one. Blended orgasms are essentially a combined G-spot and clitoral orgasm.
To hit this O-mazing orgasm, you’ll need to stimulate both places at once, or in close alternation. Think clitoral suction and G-spot finger at the same time. The best toys for women and people with vaginas do both, but there are dozens of options outside toys. Couples have a lot of options for partner play (and we’ll let your imagination run wild), but here are some common positions.
Couples may consider trying:
- Penetration, perhaps with a penis, while using a vibrator or a toy that provides clitoral suction, like our own Baci
- Penetration without a penis, perhaps by using a toy like the Onda, which stimulates the G-spot, while your partner provides clitoral stimulation with fingers or mouth
During solo play, you may want to try:
- Manual G-spot stimulation using your fingers, in combination with clitoral stimulation through your other hand or a separate toy
Okay, hear us out on this one. Some people with vaginas report having “coregasms,” or orgasms achieved through their core muscles, usually during exercise. Look, if anything is going to motivate us to be more active, we can’t think of a better way than attempting a new kind of orgasm!
Here are some poses that can trigger coregasms:
- Core-focused exercises like leg lifts or chin-ups
You may or may not be able to experience this unique sensation, but the finish line isn’t the point. The journey of discovery is far more important!
So far we’ve focused on vaginal orgasms, but we’d be remiss not to mention the differing male orgasms. Of course, most people with penises will be familiar with the classic penile orgasm, often characterized by ejaculation, but what do you know about the P-spot?
The P-spot has been called the male G-spot and is located inside the anus. It’s a highly sensitive area that can provide orgasms all by itself when stimulated. Refer back to the section on relaxing anal muscles and consider trying digital penetration, or take the challenge a little further and give a small dildo or other toy a try.
People with vaginas know the vulnerability of being penetrated; society accustoms us to this experience and teaches it’s the most common, normal kind of sex between heterosexual couples. But that just isn’t true, and people with penises deserve to experience new, exciting kinds of pleasure too.
But Really, It’s The Climb
We hope you’ve got some new erotic inspiration and are ready to check an orgasm or two off your bucket list, but before you go, remember something very important: the journey is always more important the destination. You are not a human orgasm vending machine. Pressing the right buttons won’t magically make you feel a certain way. And, hear us loudly: that’s okay! That’s normal!
While we hope you enjoy intimate exploration, please don’t pressure yourself or get disappointed if you don’t experience a particular kind of orgasm. That just means you know where to place your focus and it allows you to ask for more of what you do enjoy.