Does the G-spot really exist?
It’s the twenty-first century. Scientists have mapped the human genome, traveled to the farthest depths of the Marianas Trench, and we send global communications through a network of satellites hurtling through space, every single day. And yet, when it comes to human female sexual organs, most of us have a mediocre elementary education at best, and people still wonder if the G-spot even exists.
Don’t Ghost Your G-spot
In recent years, science has caught up a bit, and more accurately named the commonly known G-Spot (or Gräfenburg spot) the Clitero Urethral Vaginal Complex, or CUV, for short. The differentiation in naming is important, as many people who went looking for the mythical G-spot felt let down when they couldn’t locate an exact spot with medical imaging or dissection.
To further clarify, we now know that the CUV is a network of tissues and nerves that when stimulated can produce pleasurable sensations, and in some people, orgasm. This “spot” is inherently linked to the clitoris, and by stimulating it, you can deliver sensation to the internal structure of the clitoris.
You might be wondering just how the clitoris and the G-spot are linked. The G-spot is part of the internal continuation of the clitoris. Specifically, it’s located at the point where the bulbs of the clitoris connect at the front of the vaginal canal (you can learn more about the clitoris here). The clitoris contains more than 8,000 nerve-endings, making it the most innervated organ in the human body. Therefore stimulation of the G-spot is often very pleasurable, and people are even able to orgasm from G-spot stimulation alone.
What if I can’t find it?
To access this area, the traditional wisdom remains the same: insert your fingers about 2 inches into your vagina and angle them toward the front of your body. Gently explore this area until you feel a difference in texture on the surface of the vaginal wall. The G-spot is unique to each person in location, size, and ability to become aroused, so if you can’t find it right away, it doesn’t mean you don’t have one.
Arousal is a key factor in both finding and maximizing your CUV, so you or your partner should invest some time in foreplay before beginning your quest. The reason being, that the patch of textured tissue you’re looking for, is comprised mainly of erectile tissue and will become engorged (ie: easier to find) if you are already aroused.
Dr. Emily Morse of Sex with Emily says: “The female body has a huge capacity for pleasure, more so than many women have likely experienced. It’s totally possible for you to attain your goal of a vaginal O, no matter how hopeless it might seem. Just because you haven’t found your G-spot yet does not mean it’s not there.”
Can I Really Have A G-Spot Orgasm?
Your ability to orgasm is not simply a matter of pushing all the right buttons. You are not an orgasm vending machine. Sexual climax and release is as much a mental and emotional feat as it is physical. So, we encourage you to take the pressure off. Really. If you are trying too hard to concentrate on this one thing, you won’t be as likely to notice what it is that actually feels good, and that is the entire point—to discover more about your body or your partner’s body.
How to Please Your G
Now, let’s assume that you are comfortable and relaxed, and you’ve spent some time getting warmed up. Massaging the thighs, buttocks, and labia can create the necessary state of relaxation, and also stimulates additional circulation in the area of interest. Perhaps you’ve already had a clitoral orgasm, so your clitoris is aroused and erect. Begin by applying pressure and gentle stroking motions (similar to a come-hither gesture) to the front vaginal wall. If you are new to exploring this internal zone, it may feel a bit odd or uncomfortable at first. You might feel like you need to pee. Most people with vaginas report that a G-spot orgasm is a slow build, so take your time until you find a spot that produces enjoyable sensations. Try pressing a hand on your belly, close to the pubic mound while another hand stimulates your G-spot and clitoral glans. As long as things are feeling good, keep going. Given the controversial history of the G-spot, it’s not entirely surprising that very little research has been conducted on the topic of female sexual pleasure. That’s why we surveyed over 1,000 people, asking what types of speed and pressure they most preferred when stimulating their G-spot. Here’s what they had to say:
- 33% prefer alternating speeds
- 30% prefer a build-up from a slow to a fast speed
- 19% prefer a medium speed
- 12% prefer a fast speed
- 6% prefer a slow speed
As for the amount of pressure applied to the G-spot:
- 39% prefer a mixture depending on how aroused they are
- 37% prefer a firm pressure
- 21% prefer a medium pressure
- 3% prefer a light pressure
So, what does this all mean? There’s more than one way to stimulate your G-spot. If you don’t find something enjoyable on the first or even multiple tries, don’t worry. It can take time to find out exactly what you prefer (and that could be nothing, you might not find G-spot stimulation pleasurable, which is completely normal).
A G-spot orgasm not only takes more time to achieve, but it also lasts longer and feels different than a clitoral orgasm. Some people report being unable to identify exactly when a G-spot orgasm begins and ends because the point of pleasure is not as localized as it is with a clitoral orgasm, rather, it is felt deeply in your core and throughout the entire body. Sounds pretty great, huh? We think so too, which is why we designed Onda and Osé to help people with vaginas get to know their bodies and all the pleasure they are capable of. While Osé is designed for blended orgasms, that doesn’t mean you can’t use it as a way to stimulate the G-spot on its own. Each of the functions of Osé operate independently, so you can turn off the clitoral stimulator, giving you the chance to explore your G-spot all on its own.
Learning about your anatomy and preferences can help you communicate your likes and dislikes to your partner(s). It is important to note that not every person will find G-spot stimulation pleasurable, or be able to climax from that stimulation alone. If that’s your story, move on, because there are still many other types of orgasms to explore. Orgasms have more benefits than just feeling great. They help improve your sleep, skin, and mood, among other things. If you’re curious about learning more about the benefits of orgasms you can do so here.
So, long story short, the G-spot does exist and for many (though not all) people with vaginas, and stimulating it can result in some pretty fantastic orgasms. It can take a while to find your G-spot and learn just what types of speeds and pressure you enjoy, but keep with it! You may be surprised by the amount of pleasure you can experience.